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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Try asking them about things. "Giggles, what was your college experience like? Did you live on campus?"  "Duff, where were you stationed in the military? Are you still friends with any of the people you met there?"

Then they'll tell you new stories.[/quote]

Agree, or you tell them stories.  They are trying to connect with you, and you are hiding like they are trying to sell you something.

The best advice my husband gave to me when his mom was visiting is for me to be myself.  Not to get defensive, or quiet, or withdrawn.  "Be  yourself, that's who I fell and love with and can easily defend.  When you act different, I don't know what to make of it."  Since then I've relaxed, and she had the choice to accept me or not visit.   Similarly, I have accepted her for who she is and just moved on with life.  I even keep my routine if they are visiting more than just a weekend.  Which means going to the gym, for walks, any chores, etc.  [/quote]

Nope.  I have learned not to give ammo and do gray rock around mine.  If I mention we saw my mom too many times, we will hear about it later.  It could be several months, but at some point there will be a blow up about how we hate my MIL and only ever spend time with my mom.  She is keeping score.  One time she brought up how mad she was about the way we purchased our own vehicle with our own money FOUR YEARS AFTER THE FACT.  We are financially independent from her and she was mad we didn't a) ask her advice and b) follow her advice.  She is a financial MESS.

So yes, after getting caught up in enough "got-chas" from her, I tell her the bare minimum.  Yes, she thinks we are uptight and IDGAF.[/quote]

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