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[quote=Anonymous]AITA.

I’m a very reluctant maid of honor to a cousin. I tried to beg out because she has a mean streak, but she kept pressing. Wedding planning has only made her worse. The current problem is bridesmaids dresses.

She picked a rare color from a store that was shipping several months out and demanded we all pay $75 extra for rush. I did. Total came to just under $300. As it turned out, one of the bridesmaids ignored all of her texts and calls, and didn’t get around to ordering the dress until recently. Even with rush shipping, her dress won’t arrive in time. My cousin’s fix was to tell the rest of us to buy new dresses from a new store that ships quickly.

How she went about it was…well, she group texted us instructions for the new dresses and then told us to call her “if there’s a problem.” That was it. She didn’t say anything about the dresses we had already bought. I called her to ask if she planned for us to wear both dresses (i.e., change outfits halfway through). She bit my head off, saying she couldn’t deal with questions, I just need to follow instructions and asking if I was that hard up for money. Her reaction was so mean and over the top that I held back as she spoke. I wanted to hear everything she had to say. We hung up with me calmly saying “I guess I’ll buy the second dress???” She said “Good” and hasn’t called me since.

Turns out the first store she chose offers only exchanges and they’ll keep half the cost of the dress. I kinda don’t want to be in the wedding anymore. I just feel bruised and insulted. If I had had to ask bridesmaids to get new dresses, I’d be so apologetic. I’d at least offer to cover the difference. Naturally, if she had offered to pay, I’d have turned down the money immediately. It’s not the ask or the money. It’s the how. Feelings matter.

Any advice on how to move forward here? Should I get over it? Maybe I should try to get her to fire me as MOH? I’d like us to keep in touch as family and see each other maybe annually. Zero pressure to attend her wedding because hardly anyone likes her. That makes me feel a little bad for her though.
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