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[quote=Anonymous]A couple of suggestions - accept your in laws enjoy buying your kids stuff but just curb it in a more constructive way.

Thank them for what they're buying, tell them it's better to hold off buying more clothes so your kids have more time to enjoy what they have, but if they feel like buying for your kids they might enjoy xyz.

I have a bit of empathy for over-indulgent in laws just b/c I was an aunt before i was a mother.  I was sooooo excited to have a new niece I just constantly wanted to pick up stuff for her...not even big stuff....a shirt, a pair of socks, a rubber toy, a book, etc.  I wasn't appropriately mindful of whether all of this was necessary - or the impact of always wanting to bring a 'new surprise' would have on my sister's household.

My sister gently curbed my tendencies (in a way i learned from once i had kids) - i forget when it was, maybe my niece's second birthday - where my sister gently reached out to me and said something to the effect of "i know you love picking things out for Niece Nelly, given her birthday is around the corner, here's some ideas i know she'd love".

I suggest you try the same technique.  It curbed my "over-gifting" tendencies with my niece when i was younger and I've used the same now i have my own kids. [/quote]

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