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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you need to separate out your family from what is currently happening with your husband's extended family.

First, I'm sorry for your loss and yes, your SILs should have expressed sympathies to you.  At the same time, they were not related to your parents, though they are of course related to you through marriage.  So the sympathies were due to you.

This case of your MIL is separate.  Your MIL is related to you.  Your DH owes a level of care to his mother the same as his sisters do.

[b]Are your SILs husbands also on the chart?  [/b]

That said, distance is a real thing.  It is hard to be further away - if your DH is not able to be there physically as often as his closer sisters, he should be making that up in other ways, supporting his sisters, etc.  I think you could make a strong argument that you do not need to be on the chart as much as folks who are local, or as much as your husband does.

But there are probably a lot more dynamics at play, and there may be cultural expectations, too.  without knowing more it's hard to say.  [/quote]

This is what I need to know.[/quote]

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