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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents' longtime housekeeper continued on after my mom passed last year. She and my mom were close; she would come every other week. My parents' home was always relatively neat but my mother had mobility issues so my father did most of the day-to-day house stuff.
While my mom was alive, the housekeeper would also fold any laundry and do dishes.

My father just called me frantically saying the longtime housecleaner texted him saying she isn't the right fit for him anymore, and he may need somebody to come more frequently. She said the place is too messy, not enough air flow, etc. When I pressed my dad he said he continued to leave laundry and dishes because my mom said that was OK. He also said he tried to tidy before she came.

I live a half-hour away but don't go to my father's house; he usually comes here to play with the kids, we take him out to eat, he goes to their games etc. But when I have been in the house, it has seemed a bit messier than my mom would have wanted but not awful. I am now wondering and worried about the state of the home. I asked him if physically or mentally he feels he can't keep up with the house and he said no, he just is lazy and it's his nature to let things pile up. He is healthy, active, 73, in control of his faculties (or so I think). Honestly I think he is a man of his Boomer era who is used to other people picking up after him! :0

I guess he convinced her to stay on to help him, but I told him that he needed to try to keep up with things around the house or to let me know if he cannot. Is there anything else I can do? I work f/t and have two preschoolers; my sister lives nowhere nearby... I don't want him living in a sty or losing someone who helps him...Any ideas??[/quote]

I'm confused. You said your dad did the day to day because of your mom's mobility issues, but also that the dishes were left for the housekeeper who comes every other week. What day to day stuff did he do? And how gross are dishes after sitting that long?[/quote]

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