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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I probably wouldn’t have the kids at my home under these circumstances. Have you tried doing outings instead? Ideally with 1 kid at a time? Science museum, movie, shopping, ice cream, etc.

It might be more enjoyable than worrying about them trashing your house.

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OP here. Thanks for your response. Yes, I have, and it's definitely not easy. The 3 and 6 year old are siblings and usually taken out together but tend to argue with each other a lot. Turns into lots of crying. 5 year old has sensory processing disorder and it's difficult to take him out sometimes, even when he's with his parents. I think I'd like to try this again though as I haven't taken the younger 3 out anywhere this year and it would be a change and maybe a tad easier with solo 1-on-1 time. [/quote]

wait so this is a blended family with a 5 yr old on the spectrum, plus a 6 and 3 year old? OP your expectations are wayyy too high. This situation is going to be a sh-t storm no matter what. I come from a large family where we actually had a really clear chore system but the kids didn’t really start participating until 6-7. And we coped by having the older kids care for the younger, and a lot of parental neglect teaching kids not to expect anything from adults. the fact that the kids clamor enough to get spoiled (which is I’m sure what you are thinking) is actually in some ways positive.

you need to reframe what you’re doing here  - you are helping this family survive and hopefully being another adult the kids can bond to. Your house is going to be a mess if you have 4 kids over. [/quote]

No, she has two sisters who have kids. So it sounds like one has the 3 and 6 year olds, and one has the 5 and 11 year olds. [/quote]

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