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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. I do like my sister but our relationship is best in smaller doses. We are complete opposites in most ways. We do spend time together one on one as well, but if you’ve ever had someone in your life who is very negative, you know how hard it is. That’s not really the point of this post though (my relationship with my sister).

I have told her before that she is on her phone too much and needs to engage better with the kids. I have given examples but she doesn’t seem to get it. 
Honestly she doesn’t have any interests which makes it tough - doesn’t like cooking, baking, art, crafts, running around, going to museums, etc. She was over last night and the kids were making rainbow loom bracelets and offered to show her how but she said it looked too complicated and just looked at Instagram on her phone. I tried asking what a good relationship looks like to her and she said she wants the kids to be excited about her, but can’t seem to recognize the effort she needs to put in to make that happen.[/quote]

She might be depressed, or she may just be a downer. Some people are like that. It sounds like you've made reasonable attempts to explain and accommodate her. She has to do some work, but she's not willing to, so she's making her choice. It's up to you how much further you want to accommodate her, by scheduling around her whims and how much you want to listen to her complain about the world not bending to her will. I'm sure this isn't the first time you've had to deal with her wanting something for nothing, but it probably feels different because it involves your children and their relationship with your sister. That's just a manipulation tactic on her part though, and there's no need for you to treat it differently than if she were complaining she's not a size 2 while eating bags of potato chips. [/quote]

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