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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Been divorced for a few years now and consider myself emotionally healed from that (or at least as healed as one can be). I’ve gotten into a pattern of joining Bumble, matching with a couple people and then losing all interest after a day or 2. I really have zero desire to get into a relationship or even give up my free time to date. 
I’m very picky, I definitely have some trust issues (who doesn’t) and I am fully aware of the fact that a deserve to be happy. Dating just seems like a lot of effort for not a huge payoff. I am trying because of societal pressure/expectations? Am I just super damaged?? What is my deal? 
To be clear, if a friend set me up with someone, I would go. If I organically met someone of interest, I’d give it a try. There’s something about the online thing that is a huge turn off to me. [/quote]

I'm right there with you! Similar timeline. I'm really just fully stepping into the enjoyment/secure/fun stage of being single, and the truth is I love sex. So I keep a profile up and figure that if love somehow fell into my lap that would be great, but if great sex does that's even better. Better yet to meet in person vs online, I travel a lot and play golf so I meet men that way. I don't ever "give it a second shot" or try to talk myself into being attracted if I don't feel chemistry strongly. I like hot, successful men and wont really compromise too much for even them. So, I keep it light but keep a toe in that world to keep my game on point and meet my needs ~ while always being upfront with people about my availability (emotionally) and wants. Its fun! I don't think that there is anything wrong with you, I think that you sound strong and healthy and like you are in a really good space![/quote]

Likes  to travel, loves sex AND plays golf? You sound like a blast![/quote]

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