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[quote=Anonymous]Hello,

i have a friend that i have lived with as a roommate previously. when she was single and did not have a child.  we lost touch for a few years after i sold the house we were living in. i reconnected with her in the beginning of the year.  she was in a mentally and physically abusive relationship with a 1.5 year old son. the father is a piece of garbage, a drug user.  arrested multiple times, a bunch of battery charges, no license, has a 6 year old daughter with another woman who left him.

anyway, the point is, we started talking again, she was miserable and depressed. mentally and physically exhausted from being yelled at, threatened and having a very needy toddler attached to her hip. i was her only support system which she had to communicate with me in secret. she sent me nudes without me asking for them, asked for nudes of me.  then she stopped communicating. she popped up in my texts randomly after 2 months of radio silence, she was hysterical she had just had her baby daddy arrested for being in her face and putting his hands on her. i rented a van, drove 4 hours each direction to go get her. she left him with nothing to her name expect her clothes. i was able to get a bigger apartment so she has her own room and bathroom before i got her. i have been taking care of her and her baby for about a month now.  she is actively looking for a job, and getting the baby into daycare. she has had some traumatized moments which i have held her and told her everything will be ok, to get her to stop crying. i have constantly reassured her that she is a great mother and she will get on her feet and she will have the life she wants for her and her son.  but for the most part she is cool, calm and collected.  i love having her around, we get along so well, and the baby is very well behaved except for a few spoiled brat habits the were not her fault and can be easily corrected. her son is not a bother, i am even getting attached to him because i have wanted a family of my own for years. and he really is a good boy

i guess my major question is, how do i win her over, or do i just need to give her time, since she was very emotionally and mentally drained. still dealing with the loser baby daddy telling her she is not single and that they will always be together. trying to guilt her for leaving. even though she wants nothing to do with him and he has no idea where she is. ( i am also not worried about him at all, he's 5'7" and 150lbs, i am 260 and 6'1") and he's spineless, he only know how to scare and pick on woman

4 months ago she was sending me nudes and we were having conversations about sex, her first week living with me she texted saying she wanted to make it clear that she is extremely grateful for what i am doing but doesn't want anything else. her actions and reactions to me say different. but i am uncertain

i dont know what to do

i am playing the daddy her kid needs and i am playing caregiver. which i am happy to do, she is a good girl.  but i want more. the woman and family i always wanted is in my face and i cant have it. i can only pretend[/quote]

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