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[quote=Anonymous]This is a hard time of life - and it comes in many flavors. I don't have parents to care for (yet), but I can understand your feelings. I would encourage you to wait on the all-in career move until your personal life settles down a little. In the meantime could you do some sort of part time work, or even volunteer work in your field, to help sharpen your skills, establish connections, and give you an outlet outside of school and home for personal fulfillment? Please try not to worry about what others say/think but do think about how you could address your own feelings and needs.

I have a demanding career and am on the parenting back nine with one in HS and one in college. And I'm exhausted. I have the opportunity to apply for a really big promotion which I think I have a decent chance at getting but it would mean starting during during my younger kid's senior year when there will be lots of demands on my time (college visits, admissions process, school events, sports, etc.). I've spent the past 20+ years wishing I could be a stay-at-home mom because I always feel like I'm shortchanging someone (my family or my company, sometime both). But we need my income. My husband helps at home but frankly isn't as good as I am at providing the support I think my kids need. And I think I desperately want to feel like I've been a good mom so often make things harder on myself than I need to out of a sense of guilt. Again, exhausting.

Anyhow, sorry you're feeling down. If it's any consolation, a lot of women struggle with identity and purpose at this stage of life so you're not alone. Hang in there.

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