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[quote=Anonymous]Rationally, it makes more sense for either sex to prioritize finances above looks, because looks are guaranteed to fade by finances are not.  The trouble is that men are aware this is the rational behavior and it does not benefit most men— only high earners. So vilifying women for behaving rationally increases the number of women who might be influenced to act irrationally and choose a lower earning man.

In the past I think this was primarily about class— preserving the wealth in a few families as another poster said.  Since women traditionally didn’t have or inherit huge fortunes, there just weren’t “male gold-diggers”.

Now I think it’s moved toward being about sexism, because as above, women are equally criticized if they marry a low earning man and wind up in financial difficulties because “you knew that when you married him.” As a society there also seems to be a reluctance to have expectations of men, rather we make excuses about boys being boys and “Dad bods”, while women are blamed for their own sexual assaults and asked if they’ve gained weight when their husband cheats.  Expecting men to perform financially before being considered marriage material (which, historically, was the case) is now considered “gold digging” and adds to the list of passes we give men.

I would advise any woman to prioritize personality, chemistry, and finances/earning potential over looks and to be unapologetic about it.[/quote]

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