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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Listen to her and tell her that you understand it’s been hard and you know she misses her friends.  Share with her the ways that you miss your old life and friends too.  Cry together.  Come up with a plan to come back and visit.  
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My parents moved us across country and it was so hard for me.  My parents thought they were helping me by telling me how great our new town was and how much better it was.  Years later I talked to my mom about the move and told her I just wanted her to tell me that she knew it sucked for me.  And she agreed she should have.

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This. Maybe you just omitted it from your post, but it sounds like you haven't really allowed her to be sad, or validated her sadness. Stop the cheerleading for a bit ("it's great here, actually") and recognize that she did lose something, and you understand that, and it's ok to be upset about it. [/quote]

It's like when a family has a second kid and the parents try to reassure the first that "nothing will change," when actually, everything has changed.  Don't deny her reality.  And, yes, it's absolutely worth at least consulting with a therapist to support your DD.  Crying that often, feeling that sad, a year later, is worth talking to a professional about.

It sounds like you feel some guilt about how much the move has affected her, OP.  And it sounds like it has, and so it makes sense that you feel guilty.  Don't try to push away your own feelings, either.  The reality is that while the move is still hard on her, it may still have been overall the best decision for your family--both things can be true.  So, acknowledge all the feelings, and get her additional support.[/quote]

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