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[quote=Anonymous]Mom of an only here; she's 10 and generally well-behaved. A dynamic I've noticed however is a tendency towards relying on me too much during playdates. As an only I want her friends to feel comfortable here. But today after watching their "play', being asked to be a customer in the "salon", and making them lunch and snacks, etc., I'm honestly frustrated. It seems to happen the most with a particular child who plays with her sometimes; I think this is the dynamic at her house. But my daughter definitely participates and I need different rules in my home.

Yes, I've said something ("I'm doing laundry, why don't you guys play a game/do a craft") and every time I'm asked to get snacks I remind my 10 yo that she knows where everything is and can get things for herself and her guests. But this behavior continues and it's making me really short. I'm aware that she'll be a teen soon and want nothing do do with me, so I'm not trying to push her away. But I don't like this dynamic that as an adult I'm the entertainment. Honestly it's Sunday, I have stuff to do (like laundry) and these kids are 10, not 6.

Can others relate? Any advice on how to set loving boundaries here?[/quote]

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