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[quote=Anonymous]Anyone ever get tired of being a good example for your kids? Always following the rules, watching family friendly movies with a good positive message that you want your kids to learn, eating healthy balanced meals.

Prior to kids, I watched bad movies, wasted a lot of money on just going out to bars and clubs, just hung out with my friends doing absolutely nothing productive except eating, drinking, and laughing, with messy apartments and zero obligations apart from a job that paid for food, going out, an apt, clothes, and a car.

My life now… I’m such a model citizen, volunteering, keeping our house ordered and tidy, budgeting for the family, preparing 3 meals a day. I feel like I’m a completely different person. I know intellectually that I don’t want to be the person that I was before and it was a bit of a shallow existence. However I still feel this very strong sense of nostalgia for who I was, how carefree I was, how much of my days and nights were just about having fun, and how fun it was to be “bad”.

Is it possible to have some of that back into my life- my former self? And still have the kids turn out alright? And as a parent, I just feel so constantly judged, and I feel like the stakes are higher. Also my husband gets to be more of the carefree type where he lets the kids do risky and dangerous things, encourages them to break the rules, and doesn’t give a hoot about what neighbors think, so I feel like I have to compensate and work harder to get our kids to be more well mannered and helpful and not disruptive or destructive or always trying to test which rules they can break without getting in trouble.

Sometimes I feel the weight of responsibility and sometimes feel like my natural personality was never quite suited to be a parent.  Just wondering if there’s anyone else out there that can relate.[/quote]

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