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Reply to "My “needing to be liked” problem"
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[quote=Anonymous]As PP said, getting older helped. The other thing that helped was realizing that just as you are wired to want to be "liked", there are people wired to attract people-pleasers. These are often the difficult or outright toxic relationships that people pleasers find themselves in. If you have people in your life who keep moving the goal posts for their approval, and you keep trying to meet those metrics, it's less of a "you" problem and more of a perfect-storm type dynamic where both sets of pathologies feed each other. Learning to spot that these people were bad for me (not bad people necessarily) was important for me. I learned that these types of friendships, relationships, or acquaintances were less likely to end well, and I had to align myself with people who modeled better boundaries. When I was around people like that, I was a better version of myself. Hope that helps.[/quote]
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