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[quote=Anonymous]My elderly mom has a cousin who reappeared in her life about ten years ago when he was visiting the area and needed a place to stay.  He’s a moocher and lives his life traveling from place to place, expecting people to put him up for a week or two at a time and take care of him.  My mom is a people pleaser and non-confrontational to the point of being taken advantage of.  He essentially bullies her into allowing him to stay, invites himself to events he isn’t invited to and literally won’t take no for an answer.  Last time he was here he bullied her into giving him my contact information.  She just doesn’t know how to say no to him because he doesn’t allow it.  I just found out he’s been planning another trip to our area.  My mom is in the process of moving to a senior housing apartment and told him several times it was not a good time and not to come.  He ignored her, booked his trip and is en route, and has been trying to get her new address so he can come stay with her.  She’s been unresponsive due to the move and her not having access to her email while her internet has been down (she doesn’t know how to get email on her phone).  She’s super stressed out and asked me to handle it.  But I don’t know what to do because the second I tell him he can’t stay with her I know he’s going to ask/expect to stay with me.  And that’s not happening.  I’ve met him two times in my life.  For now I’m just ignoring his texts and calls and hoping he doesn’t somehow track down my address online and show up at my door.  I inherited my mom’s non-confrontational, people pleasing ways to an extent.  I’m not sure what I can say to him to convey he’s not welcome.  Suggestions are welcome.[/quote]

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