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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are definitely overreacting.

It's a comedy routine.

Break up him if you want, but then please go get therapy, because you are obviously looking for a reason to sabotage this relationship, and I suspect this is a pattern for you.[/quote]

It's the BF who needs therapy: "We were talking afterwards and bf said that's how men really think and they don't want women to know, and he could relate to a lot of it."

You and other posters here trying to make the OP feel she's overreacting etc. are the ones who fail to see red flags in other people's behaviors and who dismiss others when they call out misogyny. I suspect that's a pattern for you.

To OP, if he has treated you well otherwise, I would have a serious talk with him and tell him this continues to concern you and you want to understand him better. See if he dismisses it as overreaction, or worse, if he trots out that old trope, "Women just don't have a sense of humor/aren't funny/can't take a joke." I'm surprised it hasn't turned up on this thread already. The "women can't take (or make) a joke" or "women are oversensitive" stuff is a red flag because it's basically saying women should shut up if they have an issue with certain "humor."

If you and your BF have an otherwise positive relationship, you should feel you are able to bring this back up with him and talk about it like adults. If you feel balky at bringing it up--that, too, is a sign that your relationship might need work. Note I didn't say to dump him instantly, OP. Talk to him about it and see how he reacts to having it brought up again. [/quote]

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