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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are blaming yourself for the wrong reasons. You think the problem is that you are unable to do enough preparation such that you can meet all of their demands and they’ll never have any inclination to whine.

You’re doing them a disservice because you have been unwilling to hold them responsible for behaving and communicating respectfully and learning patience.[/quote]

seriously give me the tips on doing that.  i fully agree i have the prep / logistics part solved - i need to change the dynamics so they wait patiently, don't expect me to sit down for 1:1 book reading etc[/quote]

Hypothetically speaking, how would you respond to very bad language that they used repeatedly because they thought it was funny?[/quote]

I ignore them entirely (pretend I don't hear them at all) or say I can't help someone talking to me like that but I'm happy to help when they find a better way to ask

That's also what I do with the whining and they will restate in a less whiny voice for that one thing then immediately be right back at it.  And the volume and energy all feeds off each other and I feel like I can't be fun and silly to try to lead the convo b/c my mind is on 7000 tasks and trying to not explode from all the noise[/quote]

Stop telling them don’t yell or mommy will help you when you stop yelling. You can gently and calmly remind them once per day but they’re old enough to know better and clearly telling them every time doesn’t work.  Let them yell their little hearts out and when they do finally ask appropriately then you pay attention to them and help them with what they need. Clearly what you’re doing now isn’t working time to try a new strategy. You also need to teach them to play quietly and independently and teach them to wait. Catering to their every whim immediately isn’t helping them at all. You’ve created needy kids that can’t wait 5 minutes and can’t play quietly when asked. You need to teach this skill asap. And teach them not to interrupt if you tell them they need to wait [/quote]

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