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[quote=Anonymous]For context: I’m a SAHM but I also work part time and am working on a couple certifications for my career, so my time is very tight. I do almost all of the cooking and it’s overwhelming me.

H and I have discussed ways of dividing dinner duties up but none of it has really worked. We tried I cook/he cleans, but I clean as I cook so there’s not much to do, and even then most of the time he doesn’t do it and I have to the next morning.

We discussed him cooking 2 nights a week when I take DD to activities. He doesn’t really plan ahead and get groceries for it or let me know what he needs, so he’s running out at the last minute to get things and dinner isn’t ready until WAY later than I need it to be. I need us to eat by 7 so I can do kid bedtime routines on time, he routinely isn’t finished until 8 or later. And he makes a HUGE mess that I have to clean up, the simplest dishes somehow end up with half our dishes dirty and the kitchen trashed. So then I’m up longer cleaning up. This is what happened last night, so I didn’t get to bed myself until way later, and then I’m up all night with the baby, so today I’m exhausted.

In general he’s pretty unreliable. If I ask him to load the dishwasher and run it since he’s up late, he’ll do weird things like stack the dirty dishes in the sink onto the counter. Neatly stacked dirty dishes on the counter doesn’t help me.

A couple weeks ago he was out of town and it was so much less stressful only cooking for myself and the kids. I’m getting to my breaking point of how much sleep deprivation and caring for others I can handle, so I am thinking of letting dinners go and only making my own food.

Anyone else do this? I feel bad but I’m tired of how his “helping” just makes more work for me. [/quote]

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