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[quote=Anonymous]There are a lot of X-factors here, so definitely talk to your doctor. How many kids do you want? How was your pregnancy? Delivery? C section or vaginal? How was the postpartum period for you? What's the shortest age span you think you can handle? How important is it to have another kid? How old are you? Do you want more than two? Are you nursing and has your period returned? If you are and it hasn't, how important is it to you to continue nursing?

For me personally - it took seven months to conceive my first, despite temping/charting/ovulation sticks, the works. I was 35, so I went right in to a fertility clinic at the 6 month mark and got pregnant naturally during the initial testing (whew). He was born vaginally when I was 35. We knew we wanted at least two kids, probably three, potentially four. We would have been very upset if we'd had to stop at one for fertility reasons. We decided only to prevent Irish twins - that seemed like too much for my body and our sanity, but that once our first was four months old, we'd at least stop preventing and see what happened. When he was six months old, still no sign of my period, so I weaned and we started back with the temping/charting/etc. Only took three months after weaning was complete to get pregnant, and my two kids are 19 months apart.

I would say in general, I would avoid Irish twins if you can. That's just too much on your body, IMHO. While people think the fertility cliff is at 35, in reality, it's not a cliff as much as a more gradual decrease over time, but the biggest drop off is after 37, so keep your age in mind.

I don't have any regrets, the risk of not having a second was just too big. But I will say that I had a raging case of PPD after my second was born, and honestly, sometimes I think having the kids so close together may have contributed to that. Essentially, I "outsmarted" my body by weaning to formula to have another baby. If I had waited and weaned more naturally later, presumably I'd have had the second later, and there's something to the fact that, at least for me and my body, that's how it "should" have been. I'm basing that on nothing though, it's just something I think about.

We'll give it a bit more time, but will probably at least try for a third, though I'll likely be close to 40 before I feel I have the bandwidth. A fourth is off the table at this point. [/quote]

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