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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just give her the 8 weeks.  And offer a reference letter.  Hope that she finds something sooner than 8 weeks.  Do you even have new childcare lined up yet?

You don't like her and it's not going to work out, so just let her go to another family that may be a better fit.[/quote]

Sorry - by give her 8 weeks, I meant let her stay working for 8 weeks.  She will probably try to get a new job much sooner.  And then you may not have to do severance.  2 weeks on the job and 4 weeks severance is weird and cheap IMO.  Why short her two weeks.  Be supportive, give her 8 weeks notice and move on.   You can get through 8 more weeks.  
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i've heard in general horror stories about trying to keep things going well with a nanny once they've been fired.  i can't imagine she'd want to continue with us for 2months after being fired and that any motivation to try to show up on time / be fun for the kids etc is gone.  what i was envisioning is lining up the new person first and then letting her go based on that timing.  i didn't know if a nanny would prefer just fully being done that very day if they've been fired or would prefer a week or two to transition so it didn't feel so cold and sudden.  [/quote]

Then do what you want.  Why did you even ask?  Not many people are going to say that shorting your nanny out of the contract (that you agreed to) is fair.  Late once a week and not doing laundry aren't egregious - annoying for sure, but not egregious.    She'll likely want to stay working when looking for a new job as she will have to explain why she was let go by you -- instead of working while searching for a new one.  If I was interviewing her, I would wonder why the employer couldn't keep them on for a little longer until she found new employment.  If she was working and searching and the employer knew, then I would think it just wasn't a great fit.

You can hem and haw all you want, but ultimately going against the contract you agreed to makes you a jerk.  There is a power imbalance in your relationship and you are exploiting it.  [/quote]

I asked because I wanted opinions like yours.  From the nanny staffing agencies, they've said her logistical issues (degree of absenteeism and lateness) are very much under the "cause" aspects of our contract and very outside the range of normal or acceptable even in the current nanny market. they've all advised even given 2 weeks severance is more than fair.  I'd assumed that once I fire someone, the last thing they'd want to do is have to keep coming back and caring for my kids for weeks on end...so I was thinking the day I gave notice would likely be what she wanted to be their last day.  Your opinion is helpful that you think they'd rather keep coming to have a good story for their next employer, to get 8 paid weeks to transition (while continuing to work....versus 4 weeks fully paid not working).  So thank you for responding with your perspective[/quote]

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