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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh oh. I smell major problems for you, because a non-cooperative STBX can be the one who really tries to stick it to you.

If I were you, I'd think about this problem very strategically. How much money (liquid money) does he have for attorney fees? Can you do anything now before you drop any ultimatums that would limit the amount of liquid money he has available? For instance, one PP suggesting withdrawing your 50% from all joint accounts and setting up an individual account for your paycheck. Yes, I would do that. If you can free up cash on your side of the equation, I would do that too (stop retirement withholdings until you are done paying your attorney, for instance, and reduce subscriptions and bills on your side of the equation). You say he's "somewhat greedy." Think about the things you think he's going to "grab" and think about what can be done now to restrict these are problems (can you move your jewlery to a safe deposit box?).

I would also think along the lines of using a couples counselor and mutual friends to help him see that things are over. The more you can get a light to go off for him, the more likely you are to avoid him really sinking into that petty vindictive state that is very taxing.[/quote]

New poster. I'm going through a similar situation, and I completely agree with this advice.

And I believe that you need to get a GOOD, aggressive attorney. One of the biggest mistakes women make is not wanting to spend money on an attorney. Just think, you can spend an extra $5k on an attorney, and that attorney can save you tens of thousands of dollars in the next ten years. If you have a greedy husband that you don't trust, you need to protect yourself asap with a good L.

GOOD LUCK.

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