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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What exactly is your concern?  When my kid was that age, she was scared of squirrels.  When she saw them and was scared, I gave her a hug and said, "Yes, squirrels are scary, look the squirrel is going up the tree.  Oh look, there's a puppy; shall we ask their human if we can say hi?"  Just provide comfort and distraction; not sure why it needs to be talked about when there aren't any bees around.[/quote]

If you thought this response was nasty op it’s no wonder you’re raising scared children. [/quote]

+1 op needs to chill no surprise  kid  high strung. 🍎....  🌳 feels sorry for dat kid. Making fear noises while reading books sounds flat out cra cra[/quote]

I don't make the fear noise, SHE makes the fear noises. Like she goes and finds a book with a picture of a bee, brings it to me, points at the bee and makes scared noises. I think the bees are just the exciting thing this week and I want to make sure I don't somehow make the fear worse. It's hard to communicate with someone who can't talk. F you. [/quote]

OP (I'm the squirrel PP and I acknowledge on a reread that my original post could def be read as dismissive; please ignore all the rude people trying to give you a hard time for no reason), this does sound to me like she's using the fear to get your attention.  I would maybe tone down your reaction and give her other outlets for giving you a hint she wants tons of attention/hugs?  Like still comfort/validate the fear when she sees a real bee, but try and do more redirection and less focusing on the fear, and when she brings you a book bee go more in the direction of "Oh a bee!  How cute and fuzzy!"  And try to create some other trigger for showering her with affection, like her trying to put on her own shoes or something?[/quote]

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