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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] I don’t want them to feel pain because my partner and I can’t work things out.[/quote]

You can't avoid this. You are going to hurt them, that's a fact. Don't listen to the constant BS you see in this forum about "kids are resilient" and the less-common but incredibly stupid and preposterous "my kids are happier now" or "my kid told me to get divorced".

The best you can do is have an amicable relationship with your ex after you move out, have as little disruption as possible in their lives (same schools and extracurriculars if you can swing it), and pay attention to their lives (interact with them, talk to them, do things with them, don't let everyone withdraw into their electronic devices).[/quote]
Mostly this. I say mostly because yes, they will feel pain, but they are also resilient. Resilient doesn’t mean the absence of pain, it means that most people are able to carry on regardless, as will your kids. It’s best to make sure that your divorce is as amicable as possible and try to avoid disruption to them, as pp said.  You might want to see a professional together to figure out best ways to coparent and commit to that.[/quote]

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