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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How messy? Are we talking clothes everywhere or dirty dishes? [/quote]

OP here. I’ve been to her place twice and both times it was messy. I understand a little mess because that happens, but her kitchen was filled with dirt dishes and left out food, her living room had cups and dishes left out on the table, and her bedroom, had clothes all on the floor, and the bathroom had makeup and other stuff and towels thrown everywhere.

My place isn’t always super neat but I do make it a habit to put food away and my dishes in the dishwasher. I do a little reset every night by cleaning up the main spaces and putting things back where they go. I have a housekeeper that deep cleans my place every two weeks but I attest try to keep it clean. [/quote]

NP. Twice does not a pattern make BUT - presumably one is putting their best foot forward for a new guy. Were there plans to be at her house in advance? If so, I'd probably run, this is as good as it gets. Or did you end up there somewhat incidentally, like dinner went well so she invited you up? If it's the latter, I'd probably give it a few more visits, but I'd also throw something out to feel her out, "that's a lot of dishes!" and see what she says. "Oh, I know! Ugh, it's driving me crazy, but I'm an accountant and March and April are always crazy, I'm just behind in everything. Hopefully I'll get caught up this weekend." Well, then carry on, we all have our moments. If it's "Oh, yeah, haha, I'm a slob" or "Oh, that's nothing I cleaned up for you!" then pass.

But make sure that whatever you're doing/saying at this stage is information gathering, NOT getting her to start cleaning. Information gathering is what dating's about. If you do say you like it cleaner, and it seems like she "changed" - what that really means is that she cleans before you come over. That's actually the worse case scenario - you think the problem is solved, but as soon as you live together and get comfortable with each other, the mess with return. She is who she is.[/quote]

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