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[quote=Anonymous]What helped my marriage was making it very clear to DH that he is free to be attracted to what he's attracted to, but he has no right to comment on my weight. Before getting married I did a lot of personal "work" to finally get happy with my body and all its ups and downs, and I learned that my body is literally who I am and nobody has the right to tell me what to do with it. That's my firm boundary.

I think my confidence with my body has sort of rubbed off on him and how he sees it. I know he is still more attracted to me when I lose weight, which is fine with me, but he always admires my body and more importantly respects it as mine.

What you are feeling OP is really exactly what I would predict you would feel in your situation. It makes total sense. I think that ideally you would have told him he doesn't get to comment on your body before you lost the weight, because then you would have been able to avoid the resentment you're feeling now, but it's difficult to do that when you want to please your husband, so I get it. But if I were you I'd seek personal counseling about how to move forward, both in your inner world and in your marriage. [/quote]

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