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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the youngest sister of the family and have four siblings. We grew up pretty poor, and my oldest sister does the thing where she gets super jealous whenever my other siblings are successful and try to always one up them.

For example, my oldest sister had no intention of getting her MBA until my other brother got his, so she had to one up him and brag about how much of a better school she went to. Or one sibling moved abroad, so 4 months later, she moved abroad and bragged about it. Just very petty. 
 
Me and my DH got married last year and were able to buy a new home. DH is a POC and grew up poor too, but makes pretty good money at a tech firm so we were able to build our dream home. So when my oldest sister comes over, it’s always discouraging comments about the street not being nice enough, certain rooms not being big enough. But then she asks me odd questions like [b]“how did your DH afford this? He’s hispanic”.[/b] Or the latest one was “You won’t be able to keep him, he’s going to leave you and find someone else who has money!” Of course, my oldest sister lives alone with 2 cats and is pushing 50 in an apartment, which is nothing wrong with that, but she thinks it is in her mind.

It’s getting to the point where [b]she mocks our DS and claims he won’t be successful because he’s mixed race. [/b]And that one was the last straw. So I’m actively avoiding her calls. How would you handle this? I don’t want to cut her off from my life because she’s my sister, but what the hell? It drives me nuts and she gives me so much anxiety with her racist and classist comments. 
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Honestly the fact that she's racist and spent the bulk of this post on what you perceive as her jealousy of your financial position is deeply strange to me.  My DH is black and our kids are mixed race and if anyone said anything one-tenth as blatantly racist as your sister's comments I wouldn't have to crowdsource my reaction. [/quote]

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