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[quote=Anonymous]The only reason to be insecure about being busy when you have a one year old is because other parents of one year olds are insane.

The only reason to be insecure about not being busy enough when they are older is because you subconsciously feel like your kids should be doing more.

I mean that is an oversimplification but I feel generally true. 1 year olds are not that much work, especially ONE one year old. But new moms don't really know that and there's now way to say that to you guys without someone being all 'what i'm not a REAL MOTHER because I only have a one year old?!' Which of course is not what anyone is saying. But really, kid should be going to bed at like 7:30 right? You should have your whole night. But some people have very difficult babies and a different experience and if you have a nice easy baby you are lucky and should not view that as a negative.

I do find that much like the weather, people talk about being tired and busy as small talk. To fill space. Because it isn't clearly bragging, and because it is a generally relatable feeling. It usually does not have anything to do with whoever you're talking to, its just a 'safe' topic. So don't take it personally.

I started feeling a bit guilty recently (I have a 6/4/2 year old) because the 6 and 4 year old want to do stuff and I'm saying no because I don't feel like adding more to my plate. But I have caved and put them in one activity each because that is really not fair to them. But nothing in a one year olds life is that important. At one, do what you want while you can because in a couple years your life will truly be dictated by their interests not yours. [/quote]

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