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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a new-ish mom (my son just turned 1 last month) and I feel like over the last month I've been noticing more and more how moms seem to enjoy competing over busy-ness in subtle ways and I just need to sort of vent because there MUST be other moms that tire over this sort of thing. A little background on me is that I work a demanding corporate job, albeit the hours are like 8:30-5:30pm, so overall not bad. My husband works long hours, often doesn't get home til 10pm on weeknights and this past year has worked both weekend days (he's a lawyer). So personally, yeah, I'm "busy" since the childcare and house stuff falls on me to figure out. And yeah we hire help with cleaning and whatnot, and my son goes to daycare.

Recently on a group text with some girlfriends a friend (w/o kids) brought up a TV show she liked, I chimed in a couple others I'd been liking recently, and two of the moms on the chat just started going on and on about how little time they had for TV, how one of them completed a season of a show 3 years ago and "that's the last time I can remember have time for that sort of thing" and then started tying in how little books they'd read recently too.

Both are moms of two, who do not work outside of the home (stay-at-home-moms) - granted I know I just have one kid, but we're considering being "one and done," so I think I especially have felt sensitive to this busy-contest. I mean, kids go to bed, right? My downtime is usually when my son goes down, I do my chores, and then I relax. That's when I watch TV and unwind. Especially because of my husband's schedule, I have a few hours alone at the end of every night, too, to just sort of do whatever, and I often stay up to wait for him to get home so we can catch up on the day - that's when I watch TV.

I didn't respond to the group chat because I recognized it was a totally petty thing to be annoyed about, and to engage in, but it just got me thinking... why do people do this? And surely others relax at the end of the night once their kids are down? Or are we just pretending like we don't do that? Are other people doing hours and hours of chores once their kids go to sleep? I'm confused.[/quote]

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