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[quote=Anonymous]If I knew the family or could easily figure it out, I would contact them directly and tell them, yes. That's really bad behavior and as a parent I'd want to know.

However, I would not post to a neighborhood list serve about it. I'm basing this on my own neighborhood list serve (which might also be yours based on your description -- MOTH in DC). It's a huge list serve with tons of families and while normally pretty polite and friendly, this is the kind of thing that could stir up a LOT of drama. I think the potential for causing more harm than good is high in a situation like this. In order to be of any use, your message would need to provide certain details (like the child's age and some identifying info, or the nanny's appearance, or the general location) which would make it likely that not only would the nanny's employer see it and know who it was about, but so might others. Heck, the nanny is very likely to be on the list serve herself in a neighborhood like mine, if she's worked in the area for a long time or lives in the neighborhood, or if her employers giver her access.

It's just too public.

This assessment would change if I say a nanny hitting a child or being violent in any way, or if I saw behavior like you describe on several occasions, making it clear this was a pattern and not just one bad day. Both of those things would make it more likely that I would post something on the list serve even if I didn't know the family. The behavior you describe is awful and would really bother me as a parent, but is borderline in an absolute sense, in that it's irresponsible but wouldn't constitute abuse or neglect if a parent did it, especially if it only happened once.[/quote]

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