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[quote=Anonymous]Concerned and protective adult daughter here: My mom died last May. Since then, my former landlords and family friends -- who knew my parents and were friendly with them, especially with my late mom -- have been wonderful about meeting weekly with my dad for dinner, either on Zoom when cold (COVID) or outdoors. I know he has LOVED having a weekly ritual to rely on. Sometimes he brings another (female, platonic, recently widowed) friend of theirs as well, so it's a group of four.

Well, my dad got a text today from the husband/landlord saying he wanted to "meet to discuss plans" going forward, and asked that they meet in person at a coffee shop outside. My dad called me worried. He said he was apprehensive and concerned by the vague text!! Somehow I went into protective mode, like my dad is some person to be pitied and is about to be offloaded by these people because it's now been a year since he was widowed and the weekly routine is too much!!

So I reached out to the wife and was honest -- I said my dad got the text, was nervous, is everything OK, and while he loves having them in the social mix, please don't feel they need to adhere to a strict schedule. I want to protect his feelings! The wife said that her husband just wanted to discuss "future plans and COVID" and that they are worried about another surge. (The husband is high risk.)

I guess I'm wondering why my dad is being summoned to a coffee shop meeting; if you think he's about to be told they don't want to meet up anymore and maybe COVID makes a handy excuse; and how to protect him. He is really lonely! He has other friends but this was a weekly touchstone for him, and everyone seemed to enjoy it (landlords told me they did too!). I have a weird pit in my stomach![/quote]

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