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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The food things seems odd, but very minor in the scheme of things.

Re: planning, if she went straight to you for planning, wouldn't you be annoyed that she was assuming you handled all the planning and not your DH?  Or maybe I'm misunderstanding that issue.

But listen, I get it.  ILs can be annoying.  My own parents can be annoying.  The goal, I think, is to view them in the best possible light that you can (as in, always assume good intentions), and laugh about their quirks as much as you can, to preserve the relationship.

The caveat of this, of course, is if it's clear the ILs don't have the best intentions, are abusive etc.  That doesn't seem to be the case here.[/quote]

OP here. Yes they really can be annoying.

I just think she can include everyone who is in her plans. For every holiday, [b]she will only text my husband[/b] what she’s doing, like food shes preparing for us, what she’s bringing to our home. I just think she can easily group text in those situations since the plans don’t surround just her and my husband.

Thanks for your input [/quote]

A lot of women prefer this because it sets the boundary of all communication having to go through your husband. You are not expected to handle MIL at all. I know that the flipside is being out of the loop which is kind of annoying, but in the long run this may be a better boundary to have. [/quote]

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