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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know men will say they want a woman who takes initiative, but in my experience, a man who won’t put in that effort himself just isn’t that into you. They’ll sleep with you and maybe fall into a relationship with you, but long term, they’re not going to put in much effort. You gotta make men work for it for them to appreciate it. Which doesn’t mean playing hard to get or being aloof, it just means reading the situation and not falling into the trap of [b]doing most of the heavy lifting[/b].[/quote]

I agree a woman shouldn't do [b]most of the heavy lifting[/b] But that doesn't mean she can't ask the guy on a date or initiate sex. She could ask the guy on a date. If after the date the guy doesn't reciprocate, or show definite interest, and do some of the "heavy lifting" she could move on.

Same thing with sex. She could wait a few dates/months/whatever makes her comfortable. If she's ready to have sex and the guy hasn't made a move she could initiate. If he all of sudden changes his attitude/behavior after she made the first move, she can move on and she is fortunate to be done with him.

My wife sort of made the first move in the sense she introduced herself to me about a school related issue. We've been married 20 years. Although things have been rocky of late, it has nothing to do with her failing to make me "work for it."[/quote]

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