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[quote=Anonymous]I think there needs to be structure and some routines but still have flexibility and raise kids that are ok both with routine and flexibility of routine. You have to divide the day into things that have to get done and are done the same way everyday so you know that those things are accomplished. Id put basic needs in this category, and then have things you want to do that day like kids activities and whatever. You absolutely hope those things get done but if they miss something here or there it’s not the end of the world. Not everything goes smoothly when you start wrangling multiple children, one tries running off while the other is tantruming and your oldest is getting impatient because you’re going to miss their activity. That’s just life sometimes and it gets easier as the kids get older and can be more independent. I’ve definitely seen families though that don’t structure any part of their day and expect very little from their children and it’s like walking into a circus just before showtime. Nobody has any sense of what they should be doing, kids need help with everything, mom gets frustrated because she can’t do it all, everyone is always late if they show up at all and it’s a mess for everyone. And when this happens the kids usually become bratty and intolerable as they get older due to lack of structure and discipline when younger, or just sheer boredom because they don’t know how to do anything for themselves and get into everything. It really is a juggling act in many ways, I really think that if you teach them young about the expectations and are consistent with responsibility and routine but flexible you can make 3 work. I’ve even seen as many as 7 kids work well, though they had a sahm. It’s definitely rough on parents when the kids are under 5 though and parents need to make time for themselves and not be afraid to ask for a break. [/quote]

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