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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom is similarly combative and has been abusive my whole life. She could not afford round the clock care and was having frequent emergencies that had an impact on neighbors, my aunt and me. (I live 500 miles away.) I dealt with it by getting her into assisted living after a fall and rehab stay, and a diagnosis of dementia. It was unreasonable and unrealistic of her to decline care and then need people to drop everything and help her after every emergency. I also hired a geriatric care manager to help with day to day issues and make visits. It’s expensive and I pay for the majority of it. But it buys me sanity and peace of mind. I can only manage about two days of her nonstop verbal abuse before I lose my mind. So I never visit longer than that. [/quote]

OP here. Thank you. I really appreciate this and I am sorry your mom is combative too. I have heard after a fall is the best way to finally make it happen with AL or MC. Unfortunately, the SW|CM mom finally agreed on is part of an age in place practice. Not sure what happens if mom becomes abusive toward her and the woman quits. Then she will aging in place with no help. I m impressed you can handle 2 days of abuse. I leave as soon as it starts, but I live in the area.[/quote]

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