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[quote=Anonymous]Is this something we should consult a therapist about?

She can't handle even the slightest reprimand without crying. We've let it go this long because she's a very well-behaved kid and rarely needs punished. For example, if she's tapping her pencil on the table and we ask "DD, please stop tapping" and we don't do it in a very joking way, she will start tearing up. If she doesn't look at anyone and no one says anything else, she can sometimes quickly get herself under control before tears are shed, but not always. By a joking manner I mean something like me starting to tap my pencil too and then laughing before saying "okay, that's enough of the tapping!"

What has me wondering how we can work on this is that she can't handle criticism at all. Up until now in school, she's never really faced getting criticism. She's in 9th grade now and now had 3 incidents in school where she ended up in tears. She had a particularly bad episode today where the teacher told her to leave the classroom to compose herself. The teacher put an extra credit problem on the board, a tough one, and split the class into groups to work it. DD's group finished first and each member had to write out their part of the solution on the board. When it was DD's turn, the teacher found an error in her work which meant that in the end, they somehow got the correct solution, but the work behind it was incorrect. No points got awarded. DD didn't understand the error so the teacher was working it out with her to help her understand. During that time, DD says she started getting teary eyed and was sniffling a lot. She said she tried to get things under control but the teacher was too nice to her (ha) and her groupmates were too nice to her, giving her encouragement like "don't be upset, it's fine!" and it made her start really crying.

Both other times she started crying at school was after getting criticized as well.

I have a supervisee who cries when she gets reprimanded or corrected. That really reflects poorly on her by upper management, tbh. It's been the reason why she was passed over for promotions and heading up larger projects. I don't want that to be my DD's future. So, is this a therapy thing? Is this a pediatrician thing? Is this something she may grow out of? [/quote]

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