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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, for a week you can do it. You do what you have to do. Your Mother's needs outweighs, by far, any discomfort of yours. Too bad. Make it work. However, this is because you have offered and she has not taken you up on this offer (short term) Doesn't mean you ever have to do it again. They fact that they don't want "outside help" .. well, too bad. They will have to. They don't get to subject family to "magical thinking" that they get to decide re: no outside help.

In other words, do it this once without complaint or voicing objection. But no more.[/quote]

Thank you for the vote of confidence and tough love. "Magical thinking" is a good way to phrase the denial that's happening.

You make a good point about doing it once but not more. I'm not sure how to put that kindly, but it's clear we need to have some tough conversations. I want to help my mom. My father was absentee most of my life, so I also need to sort through complicated feelings about that, too. [/quote]

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