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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP being vague is not going to improve the communications issues with your spouse.  What does "executive functioning issues" actually mean?  It's a nonsense phrase that is so diffuse as to be meaningless.  What specific skills or tasks or abilities do you feel your son to be deficient in respect to?  What specific deficits we're identified by the IEP team and written up under 504?  Example, the student is in a wheelchair and needs extra time to get from class to class as an accomodation.  The child is dyslexic and needs extra time to complete times examinations.  A 504 suggests some deficit was identified which does not rise to the level of a disability but does warrant some in school accomodation.  I'm sure it doesn't say "the mother  thinks the child  child has executive functioning issues" in the IEP.  There has to be more and it has to be much more specific of you want to die on this hill.[/quote]

By executive functioning issues, I mean organization, planning, time management, and attention issues. Our child has an IEP for a gifted program. No 504 yet.  The issues I mentioned were brought up by several different teachers over the years, and in particular, by the teacher of the gifted program, and written up in the IEP as well.[/quote]

But OP, you still haven't explain in a specific fashion what you believe are your child's supposed deficits in "organization, planning, time management, and attention issues."  Apparently he's not only above average as a student, he's gifted.  Just because he doesn't study as hard as you want him to study, doesn't do the things you want the way you want him to do them, and perhaps isn't neurotically obsessed with being valedictorian doesn't mean he has any deficits in any of those still vague areas.

Wanting to play video games and getting Bs and C's instead of straight As doesn't mean he has any deficits in any of the areas you listed.  Half assing his school work and extra curriculars doesn't mean that either even if you are a tiger mom and want him to aspire to Harvard Medical School.  It just means he doesn't share your priorities.

When a parent falsely believes their child has a non existent deficit to the point of wanting authorities to officially label it, that's a form of munchausen by proxy.

OP, it actually sounds like you are.more in need of an evaluation of some kind then your child is.

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