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[quote=Anonymous]My DS is in 4th grade. I started him on an instrument last year and he's always seemed pretty lukewarm about it. He'll practice for 15 minutes then lose interest. I think if I encouraged him he'd continue it for another year or two but I think his heart isn't into it. We all know playing musical instruments is good for development. And I played two instruments myself as a kid, so I of course want him to have the same opportunities. Never became a musician but it was certainly something valuable for me as I learned how to not only read music and become fairly good at something because I practiced.

DS did ask to learn how to play an instrument, so this wasn't forced on him. He chose it and I'd like him to stick with it. At this point, though, I think he'd be perfectly happy if I told him lessons are over. I'd like him to do something else though if he does want to give up playing.

Am I letting him give up too early too fast? Am I the one giving up too early too fast? Maybe he just doesn't want to play anything and I need to accept that. There's a lot of pressure to get kids into music early on but if your kid doesn't like it, then what? He has mentioned wanting to play something else but I'm afraid he'll just let that go after a year as well, and that will be more money out the window. Should I just let it go and ask him to find activities at school (free stuff) like a sport, chess club or robotics until he proves he's truly interested in something?  I do remember my own parents throwing lots of money towards activities for me and my siblings. We never excelled in any of them. Looking back, I do think they went overboard spending lots of money they didn't really even have to help us keep up with other kids.

How have some of you handled this? I don't like the idea of forcing him to play. We've all heard those "my mother forced me to play the piano and I detested it" stories. I don't want him to feel that way if he just hates something.

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