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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Give us some examples of her immaturity besides these choices she's making of deprioritizing driving. Can she go to a coffee shop and order her own drink? Can she navigate a grocery store for a few items? How are her friendships? [/quote]

I’m sleep deprived and angry at the moment, so I’m not sure if I can give concrete examples.

Order coffee, yes, with a friend.
Grocery store - not sure, probably variable. She has social anxiety and inattentive ADHD, so that’s the sort of thing that would depend on her overall stress level, mood, etc.
Friendships - good

She’s got social anxiety, inattentive ADHD, and memory issues. And she’s gifted, though she’s struggling more now to produce high quality work compared to when she was younger. She’s on all the psych meds she can handle. We’re currently on a wait list for a new therapist. She’s burned through numerous ones in the past.

DH and I are currently frustrated by her seeming inability to connect her daily actions with meeting her longer term goals (or not). She recently decided to focus on her service hours. She will grind away at service instead of studying for a test. So she’s often working hard, but it’s misdirected.

And yes, she had a job last summer. Summer jobs tend to focus on immediate needs and immediate tasks - she can do those. It’s the “actions today impact your choices in two years” that doesn’t seem to stick. She sleeps for 5 hours/night and then can’t focus at school. She thinks that because of her age, she doesn’t need a bedtime…

DH and I don’t  know how to set our expectations for her behavior. She’s over sensitive to criticism, so my calmly but firmly redirecting her is interpreted as I’m yelling at her. Ugh, I probably should have posted this in the special needs forum. [/quote]

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