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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You do not have to take this abuse, you really don’t - esp if dementia is not involved. Treat her like a toddler. Have hard lines, tell her that her comments or approach is inappropriate and block her for a few days / weeks (obviously not the true approach that you would take with a toddler).

She does this because she knows that she can get away with it.

When you un-block her or Interact with her again, tell her what you will or will not accept, what will be the consequences of her behavior, and follow through if she verbally/ emotionally abuses you again. Repeat until she gets the message. It will take a while before she knows that you’re serious.

If she doesn’t, know that you are an adult, you do not have to accept toxic behavior from anyone, parent or not.[/quote]

For lack of a better way to express it, my mom has become like a dictator and she cannot handle any negative feedback whatsoever and will escalate and rage. I agree with boundaries, but it no longer serves me to have verbal boundaries and explain because I don't have the patience for a tantrum. Another strange comparison would be it's like dealing with an aggressive dog. You cannot sit and explain why you are setting the limits and giving consequences and rewards. You just have to do it.[/quote]

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