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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He is 41 and has always accepted whatever employers pay. Of course as a result, he’s woefully underpaid and overworked. We live in DC and he earns less than $70K, which is less than he earned 10+ years ago even before you consider inflation. We have children. I earn more than 2x what he does because I’m willing to advocate for myself, so it bothers me that he never tried to do the same. I WFH and he’s in an office, so childcare defaults to me. He even works on Saturdays sometimes. I don’t want to be rich (ok yes that would be nice) but I would like to retire and pay for college.

I put this in the relationship forum because for the past couple of years, he swears he’ll talk to his boss about his salary, or he swears that he’s job searching. But he’s not. Last week he told me that he set up a meeting with his boss to discuss. Today he told me he’ll set up a meeting with his boss. What about last week’s meeting? Oh that? That didn’t happen. It was never scheduled. He’s yanking my leg.

I can’t do anything to change this, can I? I can’t make him realize that life and children are expensive?. And when I try to step up at work, sadly he “forgets” responsibilities like daycare pickup so I am scrambling to cover for him and his crappy employer. Vent over.

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How do you know he didn't set up the meeting? 
Maybe his boss blew him off.

You claim you don't want money but you your household income is 6 figures.

Maybe budget better.

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