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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Didn't want to take away from the other thread so I'm posting here.

I'd love to get a temperature check on this family situation.

Time frame: Spring 2021

[b]Environment: COVID still very unknown, 1st vaccine doses out, masks still being worn by most outside[/b]

Parties involved: My family (5 month old newborn, a 5 year old, and parents), my sibling's family (same approximate ages of family members), and my 70+ parents

Situation: My parents and sibling/in-law don't believe in vaccinating, are COVID deniers. At this point none of them have the 1st shot. They all were very aggressive in demanding to know 'why we care so much' and 'what we are afraid of'. We are supposed to see said family on a particular weekend. My DS and I decided to attempt to control the variables by saying we'd visit them (about 2 hours away) and it would be outside with social distance and masks. There was a lot of pressure for this visit because we had been keeping our distance.

Week of the weekend visit, [b]my 5 month old has an emergency hospital overnight stay for a serious health condition.[/b] We were obviously distraught and exhausted. We weren't allowing anyone to help us in the house still because of COVID and we were terrified for all of our health, especially my 5 month old.

But - we didn't want to cancel on our family because we wanted to show our willingness to compromise.

[b]We get to my DS house and my sibling/in-law refuse to wear masks. [/b]Refuse to make their child of mask-wearing-age wear a mask. They start an argument in front of the children. My DC 5 starts crying. Refuse to acknowledge our fears and concerns. [b]My parents, who are right there, refuse to acknowledge anything going on.[/b]
To add insult to injury, they then have friends show up who also aren't wearing masks. We help our DC calm down and then make a quiet exit.

They have no idea why we are upset. They threatened us by saying we are angry and demanding and when we're ready to come around, they may not want us. My parents claim they have no idea what happened or that my DC was upset. They claim my DC 5 months was never at risk and I am overly sensitive and am being ridiculous.

There have been many things that have happened in our relationship but I can't seem to get past this one. For me it feels like this was the last step, that I can't believe my family would do this to me. How could they not care that we had just spent a night in the hospital with my 5 month old under emergency circumstances?

But now, almost a year later, I can't decide if I'm over reacting.

Trying to gauge my thoughts. [/quote]

Ok, right off the bat the reader can tell that you are not dealing with reality, but spring of 2021 was nothing like that.   Covid was VERY MUCH "known" and very few people were wearing masks outdoors--in fact it was spring of 2021 that most areas removed mask requirements INDOORS.

If you knew your 5 month old had a serious health emergency why in the world would you go through with travel plans?     That is on YOU.    Your family was not unreasonable at being unwilling to mask in their own home.  Your parents "refused to acknowledge what was going on" because they were absolutely mortified at your behavior and were trying to not make things even worse.

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