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[quote=Anonymous]I have a friend like this. Our kids aren't even close to school age and she has already started saying things like "Well, if he doesn't go to such-and-such preschool, he'll NEVER get into Yale" and other things that I honestly thought people only said ironically.  It's not ironic for her. She really believes that she would be screwing up her kid's life if she doesn't send him to some elite preschool, if she doesn't put him in private school, if he doesn't take all the lessons in the world.  We were friends before we had kids, but we've always had really different lifestyles and made a lot of different choices. She didn't agree at all with my decision to have DD in a birth center, but she didn't say so until DD was almost 1, at which point she had just had a baby herself.

OP, the thing is, I know she judges the choices I'm making about my daughter's care and education. I know she is. But she doesn't say anything if she's asked and she certainly doesn't think less of me as a parent for those decisions. The one time she told me she didn't agree with something I did (the birth center thing), I could tell it was really hard for her to say so and she only said anything because it came up in the context of a whole other conversation. I do not hold her judgment against her, because she is my friend and I know she thinks I'm a good parent and a good person who makes the best decisions for my family. They're just not the same decisions she would make.

If this friend of yours is a close friend, you could try telling her that you feel hurt and criticized by her comments. Try to do it without being snippy or defensive. If she is a true friend, she will back off once she knows she's hurting your feelings. If not, well, honestly, you don't need friends like that anyway.[/quote]

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