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[quote=Anonymous]I’m so sorry, OP.  The silent treatment is cruelty.  It sounds like you are tiptoeing around your spouse.  I would encourage you to just come right out and say that it looks like he is planning to leave, and could he please give you more information so you can know how to schedule your next few weeks?

Also, put your ducks in a row.  Get all your financial records.  Change all your passwords.  Lock down your email.  Make a free 30 minute consult with a lawyer or two.

Do not try to “process” it.  This is like a death.  No one expects someone to rovers that their husband just died…but it is actually a comfort to DO STUFF like have yo get out of bed and pick out a casket, write an obituary, plan the funeral.  The busy-ness of it all can keep you afloat.

For now, don’t get caught in the trap of trying to “process”.  That’s a recipe for rumination, obsession, and a mental spiral downward.  Processing is for later, sometimes years later.  For now you gotta click into survival mode.  Take care of your kid.  Take care of your kid’s cuter by taking care of yourself.  Once you are in a safer place in terms of situation, you can think about “processing”.

Don’t be passive and wait for him to tell you what the rest of your life is going to be.[/quote]

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