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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like anxiety causing a need for feeling in control.  I wouldn’t take it personally, but do feel free to ask her to help clean up if she is cooking![/quote]Yes! As an anxious person myself who had an anxious mother and mother-in-law, I can attest to anxiety driving one to over-control one's circumstances.  In which case, I suggest the following steps:
1) Remember this is not about you so don't take it personally. She treats everyone the same way.
2) You can't change her but you can set the boundaries that you need for yourself and your family.
3) Setting boundaries can give you the space you need in order to let yourself feel compassion for someone who is so stressed inside that they are bringing everything they own with them. But you need to set the boundaries first!
4) Finally, be aware of the possibility of genetic predispositions being passed down.  I warned my kid about the possibility of addiction since it ran in the family but it didn't occur to me that she might also inherit bad anxiety, which is also rampant in the family.  I wish I'd realized that sooner!

Good luck with this!  Hope things get better![/quote]

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