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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 25 year old daughter has been dating a guy for about 8 months now and [b]we feel like he is taking advantage[/b] of her and her situation. She is currently in graduate school and we have been generously supporting her, which is where the taking advantage piece comes in. We don’t seem to get all the details, but the boyfriend has been “temporarily” living with her for 4 months after something happened with where he was living. He does have a job, but contributes no rent and doesn’t seem to pay any expenses - we can tell since we are footing all the bills. [b]We are friendly with our daughter’s best friend’s parents who have heard from their daughter [/b]that the boyfriend constantly goes out without our daughter multiple night a week.

We’ve tried to talk to her but she gets very defensive. We’ve asked if the boyfriend can contribute some rent or expenses or what he is doing to pay his share, but she makes excuses or doesn’t want to hear it - she claims he is saving up to buy his own place so she is trying to help him out.

Where do we go from here - don’t want to cut her off but do we hold back money to force him into paying his own way? We also don’t want to cause a rift with our daughter since we have always had a great relationship.  Not sure how to handle this.[/quote]

Lol who is [b]We[/b]? It really seems it is just you. So at least own that part of this. It does not sound like you have a great relationship with your DD. Now you want to make a decision based on [b] your daughter’s best friend’s parents who have heard from their daughter[/b]? :roll:  I am sure you can take that information to the bank! I mean third hand information is always spot on! I guess your DD’s best friend spends hours talking to her parents about your DD’s living arrangements with her boyfriend? Does that sound right to you? Let me guess the best friend’s mother does not approve of your DD living situation..lol?

What is wrong with you? She is your adult daughter(25 years old), not some simpleton. She is not [b]being taken advantage of[/b]. You already know the answer and I bet you are going to cut her off. The only question is how many years will it be before she talks to you again and will that win you the approval of your daughter’s best friend’s parents?

What exactly do you gains by doing this? 
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