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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think people like you are so used to being alone that they don’t make great partners and do better alone. That said, 1) if you are on the pill try going off it and seeing what happens to your libido 2) find a therapist to see if this is what you really want vs a defense and 3) realize that if you ever plan to have a biological child your ability to do it alone is severely compromised in the initial stages. It is not like adopting and older child 4) adopted and foster kids often have extraordinary needs that can be extraordinarily demanding of time, money and emotional resources that are unlike what you may be used to think you can handle with your developed skills. [/quote]

Thanks for commenting! To address your points in turn:

1. I’ve never been on birth control, so I’m just naturally this way.

2. I suppose this is reasonable, and I can look into it. I guess I’m used to being sure of myself and what I want, and haven’t regretted any of my life decisions thus far. But still, consulting an expert would provide another perspective.

3. I’ve weighed the pros and cons of it. I’m not expecting it to be easy, even with the experience I have. Every infant and child is different, and it’s certainly possible that I may end up with a more difficult child. However, I’m willing to take that bet if it comes to it, and just taking things day by day.

4. I’ve learned about all of this during the foster care class, and I know that the actual reality of it all will be major. However, this is something I really want to do. People are needed for this role, and I want to be one of them. With older teens/young adults, the goal isn’t to replace their parents/family - even with younger kids the goal is reunification with their biological family. I’d just like to be another source of support in preparing them to take on the world. I’ll work within my means, but it’s not something I plan to outright give up on due to the challenge.

Thanks again for your advice! 😀[/quote]

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