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[quote=Anonymous]How do we get out of this cycle?
Sometimes my husband will do something (or fail to do something) that I find irritating or thoughtless. He’s not doing it on purpose. They are not huge things,  but they affect me. Here’s a couple of examples off the top of my head. He and l are coming separately to our kid’s athletic event. Neither of us has ever missed a game. He gets to the game first and learns there was a sudden change in venue and goes to the new place without thinking to let me know. I find out when I get there and no one is there, so I miss the first quarter of the game, when our kid had an amazing play. Wien I got there, everyone was all excited about it. Husband could see I was disappointed and got defensive, saying he didn’t not tell me on purpose.

Another recent time they were getting up very early to go somewhere together and I was leaving for a short trip that evening after bedtime. He sent our son to bed early because of the early wake-up, without letting me know, and I didn’t get a chance to say good-bye before my trip. Again; he didn’t do it on purpose but also again, he got aggravated when he saw my reaction. Apparently, I “sighed toward him” and “had an expression on my face.” So, he does the thoughtless thing AND gets mad at me? I get that it’s an accident; that’s why I don’t say anything to him. But I also felt disappointed and have nothing like a poker face, so it’s obvious. When I do stupid stuff like that, I’m extremely apologetic.

There’s always some small thing that just devolves and turns way bigger than it ever needed to be. [/quote]

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