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[quote=Anonymous]Let me preface this by saying I know life isn’t a movie. I’m going through a real life Notebooks situation right now having to choose between two men who love and want to marry me. I was with my ex for 3 years. My ex, is just like Noah and so was our relationship - a lot of ups and downs and the fighting but with a lot of love too. I was crazy about him, however, I just couldn’t take the fighting anymore, so I blocked him everywhere and decided to finally move on. I met someone a little older who is so incredibly sweet, thoughtful, and mature. It wasn’t a knock you off your feet start like it was with my ex, which was fine because I wanted and needed a slow burn. Last week mailed me a letter saying how much he loves and misses me, wants to get couples therapy, and marry me. Up until this point I had always thought if I heard from him again I’d tell him I’m with someone now and wish him well. Instead, his letter brought up a lot of feelings for me.

My new significant other is just like Lon - he’s older, a little more quiet, likes to stay in more in, brilliant (ex not that smart), incredibly kind, and I can see him bringing me peace.  I can also see myself getting bored with him sometimes as he admitted himself that he’s not exciting. I think I can be okay with that but know I’ll have to push him to be more adventurous every once in a while. The other negative is he has a 7 year old daughter. There’s absolutely nothing wrong partners who have children I just never wanted to be with someone who had kids. I don’t have any of my own and would like some in the future but I was never keen on being someone’s stepmom. I liked it partner enough in the beginning to date him knowing he had a daughter. I’m scared of being a stepmom because I’ve never been a mom and I’m worried it’ll mess with our relationship too since I have no clue what I’m doing. Forgot to mention, he and I have been together for a year.

Sorry for all the typos - I’m typing this on my phone in my Uber ride.

I love both men. They’re so different from one another and I see things that I love about both of them. Just like everyone, both men have negatives. My ex has more negatives that my current SO but he wants to work through his issues. Both men want to marry me so, I know whoever I chose there’s no going back. Logically my SO makes so much more sense but my ex still has a piece of my heart. I’ve been crying for days because I hate feeling so torn. I’ll be upset losing either one to be honest and I also don’t want hurt one of them either.

Has anyone else gone through this? What did you do? [/quote]

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